Being Single is Fine

Summer is here as we all know and feel but unlike other summers, this time around; the weather in my city has been unexpectedly pleasant. It has rained almost every day since last week or at least a cool breeze has graced us with its presence. In such a time my mind wanders to unchartered emotions.

The wind blows, a sudden cool touches the skin, the mind is rejuvenated and you want to do newer exciting activities. You fancy so many things like maybe a movie, or a walk or a dance but amid all these fanciful thoughts you wonder if you are lonely? Happens with me all the time. So I ventured out into the windy evening with my earphones plugged, in search of answers, to settle it once and for all.

Speaking for myself, I have always known that being single is not so dreadful. Sure you have your down moments but don’t you have them even when you are with someone? It’s mind-blowingly simple actually and we don’t see it. A lot of my single friends think and also act as if being single was a disease, but is it really?

You can rent any movie you want without having an argument, you do not have to feel let down when you find out the differences between you and your partner, and you can do whatever you want whenever you want without having to worry about a second person critically appraising your every action. The freedom is addictive.

And anyway relationships today are more like a voice on the phone or a text on a screen. It’s not the real thing anymore and it gnaws at your mind. Being single lets you talk to anyone you want, meet random people over kebabs and converse, and I mean really talk without having to feel guilty. You can let your hair down at a rave party and dance like a maniac without having to worry how your non-dancer partner will get through the night!

I am not saying being in a relationship is bad at all, but not being in it is not the end of the world. We have all read and understand the age old gospel of “sharing is joy” but not all the time. Sometimes you just want to lay back in your baggy-T, put on a sitcom and gorge on your French fries and beer alone.

So yes this time around when that little voice in my head asked, “Do you wish you had someone to hold your hand and share this moment?”

I said, “yes why not but no regrets, there will be tons of windy days with James blunt singing in the background, maybe then but this moment now is only mine” and so it was settled.

The magnanimity of little things happening around us escapes us when we are consumed in a relationship (positively or negatively) however if we are not we get to bask in the glory of the joy received.

LOVE J

The grass is always greener on the other side.

ADITI